What makes you happy?
Sometimes this question can be a little abstract for some people to articulate?
Instead...asking that way...how about...
"What is your criteria to raise your happiness level in your everyday life?"
When I was at Matthew Hussey's recent five-day retreat in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, we did an exercise of writing down our criteria to raise our happiness level.
Matt talked about a book called Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor and shared some principles on happiness and success.
"When we are happy, we create success"
"Happy people sustain success"
"Happiness breeds success"
"If I want more success, I have to figure out how to be more happier"
Looking back after the retreat now, I totally get it as I am much happier and got more productive in life and business thus I know my outcome on success! :)
For Matt, he had critical things he needed to happen in his day to make sure he was happy.
Matthew's Daily Happiness Recipe Was:
- 4 hour deep work
- Meaningful interaction with human beings
- Learning something new-stretch myself
- Contribute to Mastery
- Experiencing gratitude
When Matthew shared his examples, it was easy for us to understand and model after.
After learning Matthew's list, I wrote mine.
My criteria to raise happiness are:
- Meditation in the morning & night
- Eat healthy food (and green smoothies)
- Using and sharing doTERRA's CPTG essential oils and natural products
- Feeling connection with human beings
- Producing content through video, podcast, blog to share and connect with people
- 8 hours of sleep
- Impacting someone's life with my content, knowledge, widsom etc
- Being in nature
- Physical connection (love making, meeting, dining) with someone I like
- Feeling gratitude
- Having sex & orgasm
- Getting massage
- Walk 20-30 min (minimum)
- Playing with dog
- Horse riding, kiteboarding, snowboarding
- Hanging out with like minded people
- Learning, expanding skills
- Attending seminars, workshops, conferences
Today I ventured out to a park called Barcroft park in Arlington, Virginia near my business partner's area instead of going to the gym in the building or just around the block.
Thanks to my business partner who told me about this park and driving and dropping me off.
It was so nice to be in the midst of nature and hitting many of my happiness level criteria.
Definitely I was feeling happier as you can see in this video!
I've also been making an accountability video to keep me accountable to doing my exercises, to be healthier, to be fitter.
I am setting a habit to work out or move my body five times a week. :)
I also came across and watched this video today from Facebook I feel resonated with my happiness list! What is HAPPINESS?
From this video, he asks "What's your TO-BE list?"
Not "To-Do" list. :)
My to-do list has been changed since I attended Matthew Hussey Retreat in May/June 2017 as I discovered my values, criteria to raise my happiness level.
All the goals...Rituals reflect my values and what makes me happy in the day or 3 months goal or longer term goals.
My to-do list aligns my to-be(happy) list these days. :)
I feel happier in daily life now than before.
I encourage you to take time to reflect those things and live happy starting today.
I remember when I was in my marriage with my ex...I didn't want to buy clothes as I felt fat and wanted to buy clothes when I lose weight and my ex would say
"Buy what fits now, and you can buy again when you lose weight later too."
I was living in the future or for pleasing others...more than happy for myself first in the present back then.
My purpose for running my Mind Body Seoul Center was to inspire, awaken, and to contribute to people lives; but I wasn't happy deep down inside.
I was stressed out from not being able to pay the rent for the center, and I had a hard time asking people for money.
It feels so good to be lighter and happy.
Oxygen mask for myself first before helping others, right? :)
One major thing that crushed my people pleasing habit was getting help from my coach Tim Robins and get NLT(Neuro Linguistic Tapping) sessions.
My first session was so powerful and so fast and effective in crushing my life long subconscious habit or tendency.
Then I had many skype 1:1 sessions and they were fastest and the most powerful transformation sessions I have ever experienced.
After having just one session with Tim while I was at PhuketCleanse, in Thailand, I crushed my belief and habit of feeling the need to please others, as well as wanting to be liked by everyone.
Deep inside, it was driving me crazy.
While Tim was tapping on my meridian points, he was mentioning with humor "Even Jesus wasn't liked by everyone" and that made me laugh while crying with runny nose...helping me see different perspectives.
Tim is now back in the UK, and he offers AMAZING Skype NLT sessions! Tim's NLT techniques are fast and powerful!
I highly recommend Tim for anyone who wants to get rid of subconscious/unconscious unproductive patterns, behaviors, traumas or PTSD(Post-Traumatic Stress Disorders).
I also highly recommend attending Matthew Hussey's Retreat that he offers 2 times a year!
It IS AMAZING!!!! I have to make my review/testimonial!
Matt, his father Steve and his brother Stephen shared/taught life lessons, wisdom, tips, hacks with so easy analogy and powerful visualization techniques which we continuously use and apply in our daily lives.
Also attendees of retreat of certain period (for example I am now member of Matthew Hussey Retreat May 2017 facebook group) are connected on Facebook group community.
Now staying in connected with my fellow ladies, many of whom I feel are my friends now, seeing 1% shifts stories, ups and downs, encouragements and wins and successes everyday on facebook is giving me so much inspiration, happiness, love and support for each other. :)
I now use Matthew Hussey's Retreat learned techniques and tools to transform my life.
They are so practical and actionable!!!!
Knowing what we should do, and actually doing, are two different things! :)
Finally I take lots of actions after removing fears, doubts and limiting beliefs and lots of self awareness with actual step by step tools and techniques to take actions and rituals for our meaningful goals we really really want in life. Not from our head but from our heart!
Finally, these days I am taking lots of actions after removing fears, doubts and limiting beliefs with great self-awareness unlike my past(before the retreat) because I was overwhelmed and didn't know how to cope with those feelings and ended up procrastinating.
Also now I am moving towards to meaningful goals I really want in life. The goals now I have are from my hearts and not head! :)
I feel so many people set goals from head...which don't move them to progress as those goals don't really mean much if we peel the layer off and go deep.
I know, because I was one of them!
Monetary goals I set because I felt I should...didn't move me much and no wonder I didn't take actions! I wasn't so motivated by the numbers. :)
But when I found out and realize my values and what makes me happy...for example being surrounded by awesome like minded people and hanging out with them and making friends with them...that inspires me and moves me!
So now I have goals to achieve those and now money is important to do that-to attend conferences, seminars, workshops, living in California etc to share some examples!
And now it moves me!! Finally! :)
OK...I am sleepy now and have to pack my suitcase to go to the airport to go to Orlando Florida to attend Four Percent International Conference 2017.
I hope this post is helpful.
Let me know in the comment area below on what is your criteria to raise your happiness level or what makes you happy. :)
Are you doing the things that make you happy?
P.S. This is Gangnam Style music video I mentioned in my video today.
Is it making you happy? Haha~curious!